He was a strong man who grew up on a farm in what’s now part of downtown Phoenix. I think you would have had to be crazy or really hate Indiana winters to settle here, with only a large mulberry tree to ever so slightly minimize the blazing summer sun.
I can’t imagine. My car’s [...]
Different Monsters, Same Outcome
Some monsters awaken immediately, plow through walls, crush cars, kill mercilessly and leave only destruction in their paths. Think Jurassic Park or War of the Worlds.
Others use a more subtle, yet no less destructive, approach. They lurk just under the surface. They exist in every cell, down deep in strands [...]
I like the term ship. Originally, Steve Jobs coined it. “Real artists ship.” As in, ship it. Get it out there. Don’t wait till it’s absolutely perfect to ship. Whether it’s a project, product, painting, book, blog post, song, presentation, you name it.
Your art. Ship it.
Don’t shortchange the world of [...]
It was good while it lasted.
She walked in and told me to get dressed. “Time to leave,” she said.
Dang it. Stephanie was great.
I’ve been catered to for a couple of days now. I just push a button and she’s there. Coffee, tea, pillows, ice cream. Relaxation.
Spoiled? Yeah, you could say that.
I work with high schoolers. And on this last post-Thanksgiving Monday they gathered at the door before class. As they always do.
I overheard the guys, just the guys, one-upping each other with the number of Thanksgiving meals they’d consumed. It’s a given that exaggerating was going on. As it always does.
“Yeah, I went [...]
This letter grew out of a comment on a blog post I offered to a friend who’s in a difficult situation. And I just recently spoke with another in a similar situation. It’s daunting how many this disease touches.
I’m so sorry to hear of the pain you’re going through. I’ve been there. And although I shy [...]
And if I hear one more celeb, newscaster or blogger discuss what they’re thankful for or how to be thankful or how to keep a gratitude journal or how to exploit this holiday in any other way I’m gonna….
Oh. I’m complaining again. It comes so naturally. It’s easy to [...]
Thanks to Endomondo.com for featuring my article: 7 Ways to Un-Slump Your Slump!
Have you lost your luster for working out? It happens to the best of us and often times it’s harder to get out of your slump than to fight against succumbing to it.
When you’re in a Slump,
Sometimes something comes back into your life that reminds you of where you were the last time you saw it and how far you’ve come.
Yesterday I did some closet cleaning (aka, that shirt’s gotta be in here somewhere) that lead to a box I’d not touched since I moved last [...]
Introduction to My Divorce
Recently, I saw a Nightline segment that presented the investigation of Air France 447. As the story unfolded I recognized certain factors in such tragedies that fall like dominoes leading to the unimaginable.
As I watched, I sensed similar dominoes leading to my divorce. And since September 3rd, 2012 was the official two-year anniversary, I felt prompted [...]
There are some decisions you only need to make as an adult.
Except if you’re the adult.
Some involve caring for children (not just having them, anyone can do that) or, on the other end, caring for a parent. Or being involved in a sibling’s
September is World Alzheimer’s Month.
Worldwide, dementia affects 35 million people and their families.
Recently, my niece wrote a detailed post regarding her perspective of Alzheimer’s and The Alzheimer’s Prevention registry, ”… a community of people interested in making an impact on Alzheimer’s research to help stop the disease,” [...]
Yesterday, a friend of mine noticed that I’ve been losing weight and asked me what I’d been doing. I thought I’d expand on my answer to him here. Perhaps you, my reader, may also find some benefit. Maybe you’d like to join me in this endeavor? Or tell me I could be doing something better or different? [...]
The following is my experience of my brother’s final days. It’s less a minute by minute account and far more a reaction to moments.
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
I’m up early, writing this in a local coffee house. They happen to be playing very familiar songs. The Who, CCR, The Doors, Cream, Yes, The Stones, [...]
Some words combined in a certain syntax have the potential to bring about immediate and powerful emotions. Of course. And the type and degree of emotion that you experience depends on how closely these words touch the events and circumstances in your life.
Sometimes we may perceive them as bad:
They had to let [...]
I get tired of the way things are.
So I get busy.
I get busy hoping. And searching. And reading. And waiting. And praying. And waiting.
And … praying.
For that something that’ll bring forth the desired change I’ve been lacking.
I keep reading and searching in this book or that video or the webinar, or conference, [...]
The quiet passing of life stages
The last thing I saw were the tail lights of his mom’s car as he headed out on to the street. In doing so, one of the few and recognizable life stages has been passed. He’s now out exploring on his own, traversing the great outdoors, the highways, byways and [...]
I first saw Chris Brogan do this. And he just posted his three words for 2012.
I don’t do resolutions. Haven’t for years. Those times that I did, frustration often resulted from too many, covering too much, that were too easily forgotten. But employing three defining [...]
Do you recognize those moments when you’re not being yourself? I mean in daily situations.
At work, with a client, at a meeting or a business lunch? Or how about with future in-laws (yikes!)? Or perhaps when we ran into that church pastor this Christmas, who we haven’t seen since … last Christmas?
How about when we [...]
I had a dream. I thought I could be this guy in the picture.
In eighth grade I took a courageous step toward trying to make it a reality. I tried out for the basketball team.
Then came the day.
I can still remember that day. Clearly. It’s the kind of day that involves little [...]
My kids were out of town this last Friday through Sunday. Earlier, when I first heard about this plan, the following crossed my mind: I’ll be home alone … chillin’ … no responsibilities … no taxi duties … some football … pizza … sleeping in … cold pizza … more football … popcorn [...]
This is the final post (I think) in what’s become a series of journal entries about our moving into our new apartment.
The other morning, the first one in our new place, the aroma from the initial, new apartment, can’t-find-the-regular-coffee-filters-so-paper-towels-will-do, cup o’ joe filled the room. Open windows were inviting fall’s first cool [...]
Once again, our house is The Shell.
The furniture, the pictures, the coats, toys, old boom box, knickknacks, dishes, refrigerator magnets, junk drawers (yes, that’s plural), the Exxon Valdez (a leaking-fire-hazard-of-a-toaster-oven aptly named by the teenager), and all the stuff that 8 and 16 year-olds leave here and there and everywhere are now gone, thrown away, taken to Savers or [...]
A long post ahead that’s about what went down with our living arrangements during a 24 hour stretch recently, and my ongoing experience of it. Not only do I want to write this, I feel compelled to do so. It’s my desire to “get it down on paper,” to remember, to learn the lesson.
I’ve a logo to complete, another revision to do on a client’s homepage, a sign job needs to be followed up on, a proposal to write up, a blog post to kick out that I’m behind on (again), grocery shopping to do (as I write this, the teenage son is gazing longingly into the abyss, a.k.a. the refrigerator. As you read this, he probably [...]
This post began as a reflection on what made up this C-minus day. But as I wrote it soon became apparent that it wasn’t what was occurring as much as it was my reaction to it. And what I absolutely forgot to do, proactively or in response.
I’m sharing a bit more in this post [...]
I think that God sometimes leaves us hanging until the 11th hour so that we’ve no other option but to rely. To learn. To have faith.
Now, have I contributed to, and do I deal with the consequences of, 11th hour living?
Yet after doing all that I can, [...]
“When do you think my tooth’ll fall out, daddy?” my daughter asks.
“I don’t know babe, maybe … in a week?”
“Feel it,” she begs. “Ith looth.”
“Tho what, daddy. Pleeethe?”
I pull over on a side street to check it, “Yup. It’s getting pretty loose. Maybe it’s not ready to let … [...]
While still sorting, packing, and chucking stuff due to our impending move, I found another meaningful little note that was obviously scribbled down a while ago:
Success: adding value to self.
Significance: adding value to others.
I’m sitting here at my computer considering adding some sort [...]
I mean moving to a different residence. And although I’m not sure when that will happen (our house is in short sale), I do see light at the end of the tunnel and, to beat the old cliché to death, it’s an oncoming train.
While packing, I found a quote I’d written down and [...]
I’m developing a product. I think–and others have said–that I may have a patent-able product (so I’m not sharing it here … just yet). But time will tell, as long as I DO something about it. It seems far too common for ideas to be considered and perhaps even initially acted upon only to have them stall [...]
It’s sure easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind.
Frequently, because of that grind, we forget or overlook or make excuses when it comes to doing those things that utilize our strengths. Which are often those things we enjoy doing.
Why is that?
Recently, I started following The Daily Post. I figured [...]
This morning I saw in a blog post the consistent use of “yea” that, in context, was being used instead of the intended “yeah.” Just for sanity’s sake, I’ll review the uses of the most frequently used “Y” words, ya, yah, yay, yea, yeah and yup.
Here ’tis, short and sweet:
- Ya: Primarily used [...]
One week in and What Am I Doing Really? Yeah, it’s time for the first of 4 weekly self-assessment posts to check my status.
Not counting this one, I’ve posted 7 out of the last 9 days. 7/9 reduced, oh wait, can’t reduce that … WHERE’S MY CALCULATOR?!
The Blog Tyrant (a.k.a. BT) shares a simple and useful question (which is also the title) in his most recent post What Are You Doing, Really? He suggests that such a self check be asked on a consistent basis. It doesn’t necessarily have to be exactly this, of course, but could be something such as, “Is this getting me [...]
Both front tires on my long-lasting, green Dodge 2500 Cummins Turbo-Diesel named Shrek (I don’t name ‘em, my ex-wife did. It stuck.) were bald, separating, and keeping me awake. A-at night. Well, they were thumping along and pulling to one side [...]
This time though was different. I could breathe. I wasn’t up in the oxygen-depleted rafters. In fact, I was [...]
Today was a day that involved “The Talk.”
There are many different “Talks.” It depends on the day.
And the Season.
Birds/bees/babies. 1st boyfriend/girlfriend. How could God make himself as a baby? (question for me from my daughter at age 5 … never mind, long talk). 1st breakup. Bullies. Alcohol/drugs. Death. Sex (again). Driving. Alcohol/drugs [...]